Attitude is a Choice.
So is Bullying.
Bullying defined: An attitude, aggressive behavior forcibly imposed on another. It’s a good definition however, what one would call bullying the other would say is “just playing”. I think what we fail to see is what is behind the action…like the ATTITUDE! Are we really looking closely and paying attention to what is going on?
An attitude is a decided or chosen behavior. You choose everyday how you will act: in accordance with appropriate standards, aggressive, passive, angry, emotional, self-serving, anxious, withdrawn, or controlled. You have a choice from the beginning of your day whether you will or will not allow all of the details of the day to take control of you. Attitude is not as much about circumstances that occur, but about your response to those things. Therefore, learning to take control of your attitude will dictate your daily actions: positive, or negative.
“Everyone should be quick to listen, slow to speak, and slow to become angry”. We would save ourselves a lot of pain and heart ache if we follow one simple rule: slow down when we’re angry or hurt and THINK before we act or speak. Yet, we usually do just the opposite. We’re quick to speak, slow to listen, and swift to become angry. That’s backwards! But if you learn to THINK – be slow to speak and quick to listen – then you’ll find yourself becoming less angry and acting out on it less often. How do you slow down and THINK before rushing to anger? Consider these five (5) questions before you act or speak when you’re hurt or angry.
T: Is it True? Is what I’m about to say true?
H: Is it Helpful? Will this be helpful or hurtful?
I: Is it Inspiring? Does it build up or does it tear down?
N: Is it Necessary? If it’s not necessary don’t say it!
K: Is it Kind? Will it encourage or discourage?
Those of us who are close enough to get involved and make a difference must be willing to do so. The time to act is now!
Our hope is that you will be educated and empowered, ready to Stand Up Stand Out. Awareness is the first step and continuing to spread the knowledge and teach effective ways to intervene is next.